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Lovers’ fights cannot be ruled out of a relationship.

It is the regularity of these fights that decide whether your relationship is healthy or not, not their mere occurrence.

So when you and your partner have to argue out issues and trash out difficulties in the relationship, you should always bear in mind that finding a solution to the issue is the ultimate. The more issues you overcome, the lesser the hurdles you’ll have to climb and ultimately if you are patient, if you communicate effectively and always stay focused on trashing out problems and not each other, being in the relationship will become smooth sailing.

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Below we list some relationship problems that do not have to break your relationship apart:

1. When to start referring to each other as ‘we’

When your relationship gets to a stage where you and your partner refer to the future in terms of ‘we’ instead of ‘I’, it shows that you are both looking beyond the present, and have a unified mindset to be together for a long time.

But if your partner has yet not gotten to this place mentally, and you wish they were, it could make you feel scared and bothered and some type of way. But this is not enough reason to break up the relationship.

“When couples experience setbacks during that transition because they are trying to embrace an interdependent mindset, it is actually a sign of health,” says Dr. Anthony Chambers, a clinical professor of psychology and director of the Center for Applied Psychological and Family Studies at Northwestern University told NBC News.

Just give it time, communicate and it’ll likely happen sooner rather than later.

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2. Getting used to parenthood

“Relationship satisfaction goes down for all couples during the transition to parenthood. Most divorces happen during [this time], so have realistic expectations and seek help to learn strategies to cope,” Chambers explains.

“Like a bank account, you want to have enough relationship points in your account to handle the inevitable withdrawals.” she adds.

3. Issues on social media use

Instead of rushing to take the highway out of the relationship, make sure you have a conversation about what your rules of engagement are on social media before either of you get offended.

“This couple’s challenge is to use that setback as an indicator that they need to work together to create relationship boundaries that help them feel both safe and independent,” says Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed American clinical psychologist and

“Different couples have different boundaries around this stuff so the only way to figure it out is by working together.”

 

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4. Dwindling sexual desire

Feeling hot for each other could simmer down to a candle flame over time in any long term commitment. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. “Early months of a relationship are fueled by sexual desire that feels effortless and organic. One of the most destructive romantic myths in our culture is that if sexual chemistry changes for a couple, it means their relationship is bad, wrong or doomed,” Solomon explains.

“It is normal and expected for sexual desire to slow and shift as a couple settles in to commitment and routine.”

When the regularity of sex drops in the relationship, it does not mean that that has to be the end of the relationship. You can always resolve things with adequate conversations. [Sexville]   5 lover’s fights that don’t have to end your relationship DEtktkqTURBXy9kNjc0NGJkOTIzMDU1NzcxNjg1Y2JiY2EyNjE1NjljZS5qcGVnkpUCzQMUAMLDlQIAzQL4wsMWhen the regularity of sex drops in the relationship, it does not mean that that has to be the end of the relationship. You can always resolve things with adequate conversations. [Sexville]

5. Really different personalities

Rather than being judgemental, be objective when your partner is not so like you in their approach to life and love. So far your values align, methods do not necessarily have to. That is why there are different love languages, indicating that people’s preferences differ and it is OK for it to be like that.

“I like to have couples use the newspaper test, meaning if you put this argument on the front page of the [paper] you would find thousands of people who agree with partner A, thousands who agree with partner B, and thousands who disagree with both. Remembering that can help you approach your partner with more humility and avoid the ‘right and wrong’ argument.” Dr. Chambers tells ABC.

“It is also important to be humble when discussing differences with your partner. You may prefer doing something a certain way but that is all it is — a preference,” Dr. Chambers explains.

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Abass Sulaiman Adegoke, well known as Adegoke is a student of Federal Polytechnic Ede studying Civil Engineering, He is a media enthusiast, loves traveling, and has a special interest in personal development.

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BE WARNED! HERE ARE 5 SURE SIGNS THAT YOU MIGHT LOOSE YOUR PARTNER TO THEIR EX

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All relationships do not end at the altar. There might even be more relationships that failed to reach that landmark than relationships that do.

Point is, relationships end all the time, and when they do, it is not the end of the world. One would have to dust it off and move on to the next.

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However, some people never really dust off the memories of their exes or get over the feeling of being with that person before trying to go be with someone else.

When you get with someone who has yet to move on from an ex; this is how you will know. The partner who compares you to an ex might not have moved on from that ex

1. The won’t shut up about them

This is likely the most blatant pointer to the presence of residual feelings for an ex. When someone you are in a relationship with keep speaking about their ex and the things they had with them, it gets awkward and it’s often likely that they are still pining for him or her.

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That is not to say they can’t even mention them here and there. Incidental mentions shouldn’t be any trouble. It is the incessant, recurrent name dropping that’s often problematic.

2. Comparisons

Imagine a partner talking about how better their ex was, right to your face. Crazy, right? It is both disrespectful for a partner to do this and it’s just as bad for them to insinuate that you are a level below that other person.

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Even if it’s true, it still isn’t something to be said. If your partner doesn’t even care about you and feels OK with making you feel less than their ex, it could be another way to know that they rate them higher than you and may low-key still be wishing they were with that person rather than you.

Building new memories with your partner are different from recreating memories you used to have with an ex.

3. They still talk. A lot.

This is also another uncomfortable thing to deal with in a relationship, no matter how you view it. Although some people manage to remain friends with their exes and that may be acceptable by their partners depending on the nuances of the breakup and the present relationship.

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Regardless of this, having a partner talking to an ex so much when they are with you should bother you.

4. Always defensive of the ex

On this, Weena Cullins, a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist and relationship expert, tells INSIDER that “if someone constantly feels the need to defend their ex, specifically at times when their ex isn’t the centre of conversation it could mean that they aren’t quite over them.”

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If they won’t create and enforce boundaries when it comes to the ex, too, it is something to be bothered about. No ex should have access to your partner as if they are still together.

A partner talking to an ex so much when they are with you should bother you.

5. Make your relationship an extension of the previous one

Tara Vossenkemper, a therapist and the founder and clinical director of The Counseling Hub, Columbia, South Carolina says “if your partner keeps trying to get you to do very specific things and then saying things like, ‘that’s what me and [ex] used to do,’ then you need to take pause.”

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She tells Bustle further that “building new memories with your partner is different from recreating memories you used to have with an ex.

“One is meaningful and organic. The other is sad and full of baggage.”

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3 things a good guy won’t do to the woman he loves

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A happy couple. A good man will never ignore you and will always strive to give you the care and attention that you deserve. [Source/ blackloveadvice.com]

When a guy loves you, there are some things he cannot do to you, especially if they’ll hurt your feelings.

Register with Helabet and get double your first deposit – up to KES 10,000!Here is a list of things that good guysdon’t do to the women they love.

1. Puts destructive habits before you

A person who is addicted to something can never put their partner first.

This is because they will always choose their addictive habits over their partners.

However, when it comes to good guys, they know that such behaviour is self-destructive, and will focus their energy on making the relationship work.

2. He pressures you to do things for him that you don’t feel comfortable doing

There are guys who will always pressure their women to do things for them even without consulting them and finding out if they are comfortable doing them or not.

However, good men will never pressure their women into doing something they aren’t comfortable doing. This is because they respect their women as well as their choices and opinions.

3. Ignoring or neglecting you

Some men have a tendency of ignoring and not caring about their women.

However, a good man will never ignore you and will always strive to give you the care and attention that you deserve. A good guy will always invest in the relationship and will work towards making you happy.

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