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Lovers’ fights cannot be ruled out of a relationship.

It is the regularity of these fights that decide whether your relationship is healthy or not, not their mere occurrence.

So when you and your partner have to argue out issues and trash out difficulties in the relationship, you should always bear in mind that finding a solution to the issue is the ultimate. The more issues you overcome, the lesser the hurdles you’ll have to climb and ultimately if you are patient, if you communicate effectively and always stay focused on trashing out problems and not each other, being in the relationship will become smooth sailing.

Silent treatment in romantic relationships [Credit: Be Relateable] Silent treatment in romantic relationships [Credit: Be Relateable]

Below we list some relationship problems that do not have to break your relationship apart:

1. When to start referring to each other as ‘we’

When your relationship gets to a stage where you and your partner refer to the future in terms of ‘we’ instead of ‘I’, it shows that you are both looking beyond the present, and have a unified mindset to be together for a long time.

But if your partner has yet not gotten to this place mentally, and you wish they were, it could make you feel scared and bothered and some type of way. But this is not enough reason to break up the relationship.

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“When couples experience setbacks during that transition because they are trying to embrace an interdependent mindset, it is actually a sign of health,” says Dr. Anthony Chambers, a clinical professor of psychology and director of the Center for Applied Psychological and Family Studies at Northwestern University told NBC News.

Just give it time, communicate and it’ll likely happen sooner rather than later.

When you have relationship problems, attack that and not your partner. [Credit: Martha Stewart Weddings] When you have relationship problems, attack that and not your partner. [Credit: Martha Stewart Weddings]

2. Getting used to parenthood

“Relationship satisfaction goes down for all couples during the transition to parenthood. Most divorces happen during [this time], so have realistic expectations and seek help to learn strategies to cope,” Chambers explains.

“Like a bank account, you want to have enough relationship points in your account to handle the inevitable withdrawals.” she adds.

3. Issues on social media use

Instead of rushing to take the highway out of the relationship, make sure you have a conversation about what your rules of engagement are on social media before either of you get offended.

“This couple’s challenge is to use that setback as an indicator that they need to work together to create relationship boundaries that help them feel both safe and independent,” says Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed American clinical psychologist and

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“Different couples have different boundaries around this stuff so the only way to figure it out is by working together.”

 

An angry black couple refusing to acknowledge each other. [Credit: The Rut] An angry black couple refusing to acknowledge each other. [Credit: The Rut]

4. Dwindling sexual desire

Feeling hot for each other could simmer down to a candle flame over time in any long term commitment. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. “Early months of a relationship are fueled by sexual desire that feels effortless and organic. One of the most destructive romantic myths in our culture is that if sexual chemistry changes for a couple, it means their relationship is bad, wrong or doomed,” Solomon explains.

“It is normal and expected for sexual desire to slow and shift as a couple settles in to commitment and routine.”

When the regularity of sex drops in the relationship, it does not mean that that has to be the end of the relationship. You can always resolve things with adequate conversations. [Sexville] When the regularity of sex drops in the relationship, it does not mean that that has to be the end of the relationship. You can always resolve things with adequate conversations. [Sexville]

5. Really different personalities

Rather than being judgemental, be objective when your partner is not so like you in their approach to life and love. So far your values align, methods do not necessarily have to. That is why there are different love languages, indicating that people’s preferences differ and it is OK for it to be like that.

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“I like to have couples use the newspaper test, meaning if you put this argument on the front page of the [paper] you would find thousands of people who agree with partner A, thousands who agree with partner B, and thousands who disagree with both. Remembering that can help you approach your partner with more humility and avoid the ‘right and wrong’ argument.” Dr. Chambers tells ABC.

“It is also important to be humble when discussing differences with your partner. You may prefer doing something a certain way but that is all it is — a preference,” Dr. Chambers explains.

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Abass Sulaiman Adegoke, well known as Adegoke is a student of Federal Polytechnic Ede studying Civil Engineering, He is a media enthusiast, loves traveling, and has a special interest in personal development.

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Nigerian lady tattoos her boyfriend’s name on her face to prove her love (video)

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A Nigerian lady has attracted attention on social media after being seen in a viral video getting a tattoo of her boyfriend’s name on her face.

 

The lady who reportedly did this to prove her love to her boyfriend, had “Anjola my love” written on her face by the tattoo artist.

 

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Six Strange Things Women Do When They Are Cheating In A Relationship

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Six Strange Things Women Do When They Are Cheating In A Relationshi

Their are some certain things men should get suspicious of in other to know where they stand and be able to act fast.

One thing about relationships is that you can easily know when men are cheating due to their predictable actions. But for their female counterpart, the reverse is the case. All thanks to their secret lifestyle

 

Unfortunately for women, their behaviors always disappoint them naturally. So here are six Strange things women do when they are cheating in a relationship

1. She never parts with her phone.

She start being too private with her phone. Everyone is entitled to their own privacy, but if she’s being too secretive with her phone, then their is a problem.

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2. When she starts becoming disrespectful.

It’s very painful when a girl who love and cherish you suddenly start becoming disrespectful to you. Do not assume it is normal because another man is now in her life and also flashing money on her.

3. No calls around you.

If she hastenly cut call around you or she avoided some male callers when you are around, better make sure you keep your eyes open.

She might also prefer not to pick your calls, at this point just know that she is with some other guy.

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4. Strongly in opposition.

A minor disagreement happens now and then between every couples, but if she gets miffed over minute issue, you need to be careful as their is something she is hiding behind her anger.

5. When she wants a break in the relationship.

This particular one is really common. When she suddenly wants a break in the relationship, just know that she is cheating.

6. She is always lost in thoughts.

Women are known to be attentive creatures and good listeners. They sacrifice a lot in relationships, but if she barely pays attention to what her man is saying, just no that she is cheating because someone else is playing that role for the boyfriend.

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