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Sometimes, to become successful, we do not need to add more things, we need to give up on some of them.

Even though each one of us has a different definition of success, there are certain things that are universal, which, if you give up on them, you will be more successful.

Some of them you can give up today, while it might take a bit longer for others.

1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle

“Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live.” — Jim Rohn

If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, you have to take care of your health, and there are only two things you need to keep in mind:

  1. Healthy Diet
  2. Physical Activity

Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.

2. Give Up The Short-term Mindset

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West

Successful people set long-term goals, and they know that these aims are merely the result of short-term that they need to do every day.

These healthy habits should not be something you do; they should be something you are.

There is a difference between: “Working out to have summer body” and “Working out because that is who you are.”

3. Give Up Playing Small

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never realize your true potential.

Moreover, the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved.

So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.

4. Give Up Your Excuses

“It is not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand.” – Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.

Realizing that you are entirely responsible for what happens next in your life, is both frightening and exciting.

However, it is the only way that you can reach the success because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.

Own your life; no one else will.

5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset

“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.”  ― Robert Greene, Mastery

In a fixed mindset, people believe that their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They are wrong.

Moreover, successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.

Remember, who you are today, it is not whom you have to be tomorrow.

6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”

“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better” — Émile Coué

Overnight success is a myth.

Successful people know that making small continuous every day, will be compounded over time, and give them desired results.

That why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1%.

7. Give Up Your Perfectionism

“Shipping beats perfection.” — Kahn Academy’s Development Mantra

Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try.

Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking action and putting our creation out there in the world. However, many opportunities will be lost if we wait for things to be right.

So, “ship,” and then improve (that 1%).

8. Give Up Multi-tasking

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.”  ― Winston S. Churchill

Successful people know this. That is why they choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what, a idea, a conversation, or a workout.

Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.

9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything

“Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us.” — Epictetus, Stoic philosopher

Differentiating these two is important.

Detach from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to monitor is your attitude towards something.

Moreover, remember, nobody can be frustrated while saying “Bubbles” in an angry voice.

10. Give Up Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals

“He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.” — James Allen

Successful people know this that to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to tasks, activities, and demands from your friends, family, and colleagues.

On a short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will be worth it.

11. Give Up The Toxic People

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

People we spend the most time with, add up to whom we become.

There are less ambitious people, and there are more ambitious people than us. If you spend time with the ones that are less driven than you, your average will go down, and with it your success.

However, if you spend time with people more advanced than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will be more successful.

Take a look at around yourself, and see if you need to make any changes.

12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked

“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton

Think of yourself as a market niche.

There will be many people that like that niche, but there will be individuals who do not, and no matter what you do, you will not be able to make an entire market like you.

This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to do anything to justify yourself.

The only thing you can do is continue being authentic, and know that growing number of “haters” means that you are doing important things.

13. Give Up Your Dependency on The Social Media & Television

“The trouble is, you think you have time” — Jack Kornfield

Impulsive web browsing and television watching is a disease of today’s society.

These two should never be an escape from your life or your goals.

Unless your goals depend on either, you should minimize (or eliminate) your dependency on them. Moreover, direct that time towards things that can enrich your life.

Abass Sulaiman Adegoke, well known as Adegoke is a student of Federal Polytechnic Ede studying Civil Engineering, He is a media enthusiast, loves traveling, and has a special interest in personal development.

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Keep these in mind when meeting your partner’s parents for the first time

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Meeting your partner’s parents is not only an important milestone in an intimate relationship but also a nerve-wracking experience.

It is that time when first impressions do really matter, and you only got one chance to make a good one.

1. Go bearing a gift

It doesn’t matter if it’s the middle of the month and you’re broke, or you are on a super tight budget.

Save up and buy them something nice. Whether they like it or not, your efforts will be noticed and appreciated.

The trick here is to go for something the mother would like and present it directly to her. You will earn bonus points.

2. Keep your phone off the table

Nothing screams ‘Rude’ louder than your phone ringing right in the middle of a conversation or meal with your partner’s family. It is a definite no-no.

In fact, they will interpret it as you don’t value their company. Just turn it off.

3.Dress appropriately

Don’t show up in a pair of khaki shorts and sandals; you’re not going for a road trip.

Whether you choose to go for a casual or official outfit, keep it simple, appropriate and comfortable.

Ladies, this is where you go slow on the makeup.

4.Have kind words on your lips

Being appropriately nice and generous with compliments throughout your stay will also earn you points.

Whether you compliment the parents’ outfits (even if you don’t like them), their home or how delicious the food is, just keep them coming.

5. Offer to help

This tip is for ladies.

Offering to clean up after a meal shows you are a nice well-grounded person with good manners.

It’s also a good way to keep busy and calm your nerves. Just be genuine and sincere about it.

 

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How do you know if a girl genuinely values you or she’s just fooling around? Feb 17, 2019 01:05 AM

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How do you know if a girl genuinely values you or she’s just fooling around?

Feb 17, 2019 01:05 AM

I m a girl and according to me

if a girl genuinely values you then she is going to take care of you like a mother does unconditionally and wants in return nothing but just respect ans your attention towards her

3. would listen to you with all her attention whatever you want to share with her and would try to help you in figuring out with your problem

4. Would not mind to talk to you in public,in front of her friends,in front of her family members in some conditions and would not mind to talk about you in front of others

5. Would put you in her priorities list and would talk about every thing she did in her day or is going to do tomorrow without hiding about her plans

6. Would understand your ups-n-downs n react accordingly,not like complaining all the times

7. Whenever she meets you would feel that it was just like the first time she met you all with her exictment and surprise and not in hurry

8. Would like to transform you for your good n not change you up totally according to her requirements

 

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